Help + Support
Resources on common topics for personal discovery and recovery
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Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worryby Catherine M. Pittman PhD, Elizabeth M. Karle MLIS
Change Your Brain, Change Your Life (Revised and Expanded): The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Lack of Focus, Anger, and Memory Problemsby Daniel G. Amen M.D.
Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks by Barry McDonagh
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Paperback by Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne PhD
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Change Your Brain, Change Your Life (Revised and Expanded): The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Lack of Focus, Anger, and Memory Problemsby Daniel G. Amen M.D.
The ACT Workbook for Depression and Shame: Overcome Thoughts of Defectiveness and Increase Well-Being Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Matthew McKay PhD, Michael Jason Greenberg PsyD, Patrick Fanning
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Resources for Parents of Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/resources-for-parents-of-children-who-have-been-sexually-abused
Office of Victims of Crimes https://ovc.ojp.gov/taxonomy/term/victim-support-groups
Mothers of Sexually Abused Children (MOSAC) https://www.nsvrc.org/organizations/mothers-sexually-abused-children-mosac/
CARING FOR KIDS: WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE https://www.nctsn.org/resources/caring-kids-what-parents-need-know-about-sexual-abuse
Support for Families, Friends, and Partners of Perpetrators https://survivorsnetwork.org.uk/resource/support-for-families-friends-and-partners-of-perpetrators/
Prison Families Alliance https://prisonfamiliesalliance.org/
The Circles of Support and Accountability (CoSA) https://csgjusticecenter.org/publications/circles-of-support-and-accountability/
National Association for Rational Sexual Offense Laws (NARSOL). https://www.narsol.org/community/fearless-project/
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The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz
Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence by Dr. Anna Lembke
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller
Healing the Shame that Binds You (Recovery Classics) by John Bradshaw
The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook: Healing From Emotional Abuse by Amy Marlow-MaCoy LPC
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (Harper Perennial Modern Classics) by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Visioneering: Your Guide for Discovering and Maintaining Personal Vision by Andy Stanley
Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life by Bill Burnett, Dave Evans
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Lifeby Henry Cloud and John Townsend
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Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman
Michael Rosens Sad Bookby Michael Rosen
It's OK That You're Not OK Paperback by Megan Devine
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Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too by Jenni Schaefer, Thom Rutledge
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The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Loveby Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (More Than Two Essentials) by Franklin Veaux, Janet Hardy, Tatiana Gill
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship by John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Joan Declaire
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expertby John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver
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Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illnessby Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg
Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desireby Lori A. Brotto, Emily Nagoski
The Pleasure Gap: American Women and the Unfinished Sexual Revolutionby Katherine Rowland
The Come as You Are Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Science of Sexby Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Traumaby Staci Haines
Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sexby Dr. Karen Rayne
Sensate Focus in Sex Therapyby Linda Weiner, Constance Avery-Clark
Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Lifeby Elle Chase
Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sexby Joan Price
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sexby Angela Chen
Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure and Relationshipsby Juno Roche
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sexby Barry W. McCarthy PhD, Michael E. Metz PhD
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner
The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis--From Size to Function and Everything in Between by Aaron Spitz M.D.
Taking Action: Support for Families of Adolescents with Illegal Sexual Behaviors by Barbara Bonner, Ph.D. (free download)
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Breathing Under Water: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps by Richard Rohr O.F.M.
Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Timothy D Stein
A Year of Self-Love: Daily Wisdom and Inspiration for Loving Yourself (A Year of Daily Reflections) by Troy L. Love MSW LCSW
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Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships by Alex Avila
Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D.
A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts by Kenneth M. Adams, PhD., Mary E. Meyer, PhD, LMFT, and Culle L. Vande Garde, LCSW
When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph. D., with Alexander P. Morgan
Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Dr. Eddie Capparucci LPC, C-CSAS
Neglect The Silent Abuser. How to Recognize and Heal from childhood neglect by Enod Gray
Finding Peace: A Workbook on Healing From loss, neglect, rejection, abandonment, betrayal, and abuse by Troy L. Love, MSW, LCSW
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
for sex addiction + Betrayal Trauma
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A variety of groups are available
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
Porn Addicts Anonymous (PAA)
Books
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss
The Seeking Integrity Sex Addiction 101 Workbook by Robert Weiss
Sex Under the Influence: Understanding and Healing from Sexualized Drug Use by David Fawcett
Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man’s Guide to Sex and Recovery by David Fawcett
The Seeking Integrity Porn Addiction Workbook, by Seeking Integrity and Robert Weiss, PhD
Sex and Porn Addiction Healing and Recovery: A Practical Daily Reader for Sex and Porn Addicts by Scott Brassart
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men (Second Edition) by Robert Weiss
Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction by Paula Hall
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction by Dr. Patrick Carnes
Out of the Dog House for Christian Men: A Redemptive Guide for Men Caught Cheating by Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S and Marnie C. Ferree LMFT, CSAT
Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man’s Guide to Sex and Recovery by David Fawcett, Ph.D.
Why Men Struggle to Love: Reparenting the Inner Child by Dr. Eddie Capparucci LPC, C-CSAS
Addicted to Love: Recovery, Empowerment, and Finding Your True Self by Lacy Alajna Bentley
The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robin Stern
For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationship by Debra L. Kaplan
Battle of the Titans: Mastering the Forces of Sex, Money, and Power in Relationships by Debra Kaplan
Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction: A Comprehensive Guide for People Who Struggle with Sex Addiction and Those Who Want to Help Them by Paula Hall
Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession? by Jennifer Schneider, Robert Weiss
Sex and Porn Addiction Healing and Recovery: A Practical Daily Reader for Sex and Porn Addicts
These videos provide insight into 12 step groups that you may find helpful.
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Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal by Dr. Stefanie Carnes
Help. Her. Heal. by Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, CSAT
We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of depth, true connection, and enduring love by Stan Tatkin Ph.D., MFT
The Couples Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy can Help Your Relationship Heal by Drs. Bill & Ginger Bercaw
The Trust Solution: A couple's guide to healing intimate betrayal by Merry Frons, PhD
Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction by Claudia Black, Cara Tripodi
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Addiction in the Family: Helping Families Navigate Challenges, Emotions, and Recovery by Louise Stanger EDD LCSW
Disclosing Secrets: An Addict's Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal by M Deborah Corley Ph.D. (Author), Jennifer P Schneider M.D.
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Books
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency by Robert Weiss
Life Anonymous: 12 Steps to Heal and Transform Your Life by Kristin M. Snowden and Scott Brassart
Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal by Stefanie Carnes
The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst, by Michelle Mays
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by Dr. Stephanie Carnes
Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective by Paula Hall
Moving Beyond Betrayal, by Vicki Tidwell Palmer
When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things To Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal by Michelle Mays
Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal: The Essential Tools for Healing by Kevin Skinner
Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel
Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Sheri Keffer
Back From Betrayal: Recovering from the Trauma of Infidelity by Jennifer P. Schneider M.D.
Ambushed by Betrayal: The Survival Guide for Betrayed Partners on Their Heroes' Journey to Healthy Intimacy by Michele F. Saffier, Allan J. Katz
Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts by Vicki Tidwell Palmer
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens, Marsha Means
Sex Addiction: The Partner's Perspective by Paula Hall
Groups
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40 Forms of Intimacy: Integrating Daily Connection into your Couple Relationship by Alex Avila
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Dr. Alexandra Katehakis PhD MFT CSAT-S CST-S
It's Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by Andrew Susskind, LCSW, SEP, CGP
The Ultimate Survival Guide for Navigating Healthy Boundaries by Deborah A. DePolo, MA., LPC
